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Tuesday, March 30, 2010
TANTRUMS IN PUBLIC PLACES? K-STATE EXPERT OFFERS PARENTING TIPS ON APPROPRIATE DISCIPLINE FOR CHILDREN
MANHATTAN -- It's hard to ignore: the tantrum-throwing child at the department store and the stressed-out parent at wit's end, embarrassed, not sure what to do next.
When children act out in public, parents don't always know how best to respond, according to Chuck 1xbet online games login , a Kansas State University child development expert. The proper way to react depends on a number of factors, he said, including the child's age, the purpose of the public outing and whether the child's behavior even needs to be corrected.
The golden rule for parents, 1xbet online games login says, is to set reasonable expectations and to stick to your guns when enforcing them.
&1xbet online games login ;Many parents are concerned with the glare of onlookers, so they'll let their kids get away with things because of the threat,&1xbet online games login ; Smith said.
&1xbet online games login ;You can't let a child leverage your own sense of embarrassment in public to get what he or she wants,&1xbet online games login ; he said. &1xbet online games login ;It's not that you ignore the public, but you have to decide where your real priority is -- and that is with teaching your child. You can't ever lose focus on that.&1xbet online games login ;
First, 1xbet online games login parents should work on developing age-appropriate rules about how their children should behave in public. For example, asking a 5-year-old to be quiet in church is probably unreasonable. On the other hand, expecting that child to keep food in their mouth during a meal at a restaurant is not.
When a child misbehaves, 1xbet online games login it's useful -- particularly with younger children -- to gently remind them of the rules by asking them whether they can recall what they are supposed to do.
&1xbet online games login ;Then, when they look at you in a confused manner, you firmly remind them of the rule,&1xbet online games login ; Smith said. &1xbet online games login ;You don't ever punish a child for something they didn't know they weren't supposed to do.&1xbet online games login ;
Whatever the behavior, parents also have to decide whether it's worth correcting.
For example, parents often will negotiate with a child who continues to whine about not getting a toy from the store. 1xbet online games login calls that sort of behavior from children irrelevant and adds that it's perfectly valid to ignore it.
&1xbet online games login ;Any response to whining or crying, even punishment, shows that a child is in control and is pulling a parent's strings,&1xbet online games login ; Smith said. &1xbet online games login ;The parent should rise above this noise and remain steadfast to the limit they set. You have to be smarter than the kid and realize that you are not going to be drawn into this.&1xbet online games login ;
If the parent succumbs to that sort of behavior -- even once -- they'll have a long road to hoe before the child will take them seriously again, 1xbet online games login .
&1xbet online games login ;If you give in, you are going to have lots of temper tantrums before they realize that doesn't work,&1xbet online games login ; Smith said. &1xbet online games login ;The child will remember that throwing a fit worked that one time. Gradually, they'll realize that throwing a temper tantrum isn't worth the energy, but it will take a lot longer and will take a toll on both the parents and child.&1xbet online games login ;
In situations where a child is being a nuisance, Smith said it's also important for members of the public not to make the situation worse. Unless there is obvious abuse going on, it's best to not intervene unless 1xbet online games login are offering help to the parent.
&1xbet online games login ;Parents need to be appreciated for the hard work they do,&1xbet online games login ; Smith said. &1xbet online games login ;Never assume you know what's going on. You have no idea how this child normally reacts and what this parent is going through.&1xbet online games login ;
In some situations, 1xbet online games login says a bit of understanding can go a long way.
&1xbet online games login ;You can say something like, 'I'm sure it's been a long day for you, what can I do to give you a hand?'&1xbet online games login ; Smith said. &1xbet online games login ;You're recognizing that person's struggle and if they're on the edge of doing or saying something inappropriate, you're helping to bring them back to reality.&1xbet online games login ;