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Often, when we consider the idea of self-acceptance, we find some way to resist the idea. We might want to accept ourselves, but find it hard to accept the parts of ourselves that we want to change. We might accept ourselves when we're successful, but feel self-loathing when times are tough. We might fear that accepting ourselves will mean giving up or not making any more progress. However, paradoxically, the opposite is true. The only real way to make progress is to start by accepting where 1xbet online games login are. Trying to move forward without first accepting where 1xbet online games login are is like trying to use a map at a shopping mall and not having the "1xbet online games login are here" label. No matter where 1xbet online games login are in your life journey, "1xbet online games login ARE HERE" and that's totally okay. No, really, it is!

It's not hard to 1xbet online games login ourselves when school, work, and relationships are going good, and when we're feeling calm and happy. When something goes wrong in one of those areas, we tend to jump into "fix it" mode. We try to eliminate any negative experience or feeling from our lives. While this approach is sometimes helpful, leading us to make positive changes, it can backfire. This is particularly true when what we are trying to fix isn't entirely under our own control. Thoughts, feelings and relationships are under our influence, but we can't dictate exactly how these important facets of our life will unfold. When we try to control these things, it often makes it worse. Imagine breaking up with a significant other. How effective is it to tell yourself "stop feeling this way!"? It's like the classic example: try not to think of a white elephant. When we try to suppress our thoughts or feelings, the opposite occurs: the thoughts and feelings get even more intense. The more we try to escape, the tighter they hold on (like one of those Chinese finger traps.)

When we let go of our need to control our thoughts and feelings, we move into a mode where we can be less self-critical. We can begin to approach our problem in a way that is more calm and compassionate. Instead of asking ourselves "What is wrong with me?? Why can't I just get over this??" We can say, "What is 1xbet online games login that I need right now? What resources might I use to help improve this situation? What could I do to help myself?"

At this point, some of my readers are saying to themselves, "That's okay for some people, but I can't accept X, Y, or Z about myself." Is there part of 1xbet online games login that is thinking that way? Take some time to fill in the blanks of the following sentences. Fill it as many responses as 1xbet online games login can think of, in the space below:

I can't 1xbet online games login ...... about myself.
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Did anything come to mind? For some people, it will bring to mind emotions ("I can't accept my depressed feelings.") For others, it might be something about your appearance or performance ("I can't accept my weight." Or "I can't accept my grades.") For others, it might reveal deeper self-loathing ("I can't accept myself because I'm a loser.") It could even be part of your past that wasn't under your control ("I can't accept that I was molested as a child.") This exercise helps to reveal the most important things for 1xbet online games login to work on accepting. It's not hard to accept our strengths—what is essential is finding a way to accept the parts of ourselves that we feel ashamed of.

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Look at the responses that 1xbet online games login made to the first exercise. These are the aspects of yourself that most need accepting.
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Create different self-talk. If 1xbet online games login struggle with self-acceptance, then 1xbet online games login likely have a very negative track of thoughts playing in your head. Replace those negative thoughts with more self-accepting ones. Try finishing the following sentences:
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Don't give up. It can take a long time to reverse the habit of self-criticism. The process may feel like "two steps forward one step back." That's okay. 1xbet online games login 'll still be one step ahead.