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By Sarah Wesch

When people hear the word assertive, negative connotations often come to mind. Things like "pushy" or "selfish" or even "nag" or "jerk." But, in reality, being assertive means that 1xbet online sports betting communicate your own needs and wants in a way that is respectful to others. People confuse assertiveness with aggressive behavior, which is getting your own needs and wants meant at the expense of others. Often, in an attempt to avoid being aggressive or selfish, people revert to passive behavior, allowing others' needs and wants to always come first.

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Everyone falls along the continuum from completely passive behavior to very aggressive behavior. Often, this may vary. We may behave passively in some situations (e.g. at work) and aggressively in others (e.g. with family.) Ideally, we would all work to balance our needs and wants with those of others. Where do 1xbet online sports betting fall on the continuum? Check out this quiz, published on another website, to help assess your level of assertiveness:
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How To Change

If 1xbet online sports betting 're like most people, 1xbet online sports betting aren't perfectly assertive all the time. Sometimes, 1xbet online sports betting might not feel like 1xbet online sports betting can stand up for what 1xbet online sports betting need or want. Othertimes, 1xbet online sports betting might not take the needs and wants of others into consideration. Here are some communication strategies that can help 1xbet online sports betting communicate more assertively:

1. Know 1xbet online sports betting Rights

1xbet online sports betting have the right to say "no." 1xbet online sports betting have the right not to have to justify your decisions to others. 1xbet online sports betting have a right to express your feelings. 1xbet online sports betting have the right not to take responsibility for the behavior of others. 1xbet online sports betting have the right to expect others to do/pay their fair share. 1xbet online sports betting have the right to expect honesty from others. 1xbet online sports betting have the right to make mistakes. 1xbet online sports betting have the right to go places and see people without accounting for your whereabouts to a friend or significant other.

What other rights might 1xbet online sports betting have? Right now, what rights do 1xbet online sports betting feel are being infringed upon? Are there any situations in which 1xbet online sports betting aren't respecting the rights of others?

2. Express Yourself Clearly and Succinctly (Repeat as Needed)

When 1xbet online sports betting 've identified a situation in which 1xbet online sports betting need to be more assertive, try to phrase your request in a simple, fact-based way. For instance, a common situation for college students is having a roommate who is late on rent. A simple phrase could be "The rent was due last Tuesday. I need 1xbet online sports betting to pay your share." Often, the person will start making excuses. At that point, 1xbet online sports betting can repeat yourself "I still need 1xbet online sports betting to pay your share." If the roommate doesn't come forward with the rent, 1xbet online sports betting may need to give a consequence "I need 1xbet online sports betting to pay your share, or 1xbet online sports betting will need to move out."

3. Use "I Statements"

When we try to resolve a conflict, we often turn to accusations and name calling. By taking this approach, we make it difficult for the other person to hear our point of view. Rather than focusing blame on the other person, focus on describing the situation and your feelings. For instance, if your friend often leaves 1xbet online sports betting waiting, 1xbet online sports betting could say "When 1xbet online sports betting arrive later than we said we would meet, I feel hurt and disrespected."

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One area that can be difficult is turning down requests. College students can find themselves overwhelmed with activities because they find it hard to say "no." 1xbet online sports betting may find that 1xbet online sports betting feel like 1xbet online sports betting have to justify why 1xbet online sports betting are saying "no" but this is not the case. A simple "no" or "no, thank 1xbet online sports betting for asking" is enough. If 1xbet online sports betting are prone to saying "yes" too easily, 1xbet online sports betting may want to start by saying "Let me give that some thought." That will buy 1xbet online sports betting the time 1xbet online sports betting need to really decide if 1xbet online sports betting have room in your life for one more activity.

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If 1xbet online sports betting find that 1xbet online sports betting are struggling to communicate assertively and it is having a negative impact on your life, it may be time to make an appointment with a therapist. For students at Kansas State University, 1xbet online sports betting are eligible for counseling through CAPS. Follow coming 1xbet sports betting to CAP for instructions on getting started at CAPS.

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